It’s very disappointing and exasperating to see how two girls can be best friends one day, and worst enemies the other day!
I tried to understand the complicated motivations and sick intentions of some girls. I mean why on earth would I hate someone to the point that I become obsessed with everything related to him? Actually I have no time for childish hatred!
I’m astonished how one girl can keep on hurting another with no acceptable reason Or are “jealousy” and “envious” acceptable reasons? you tell me.
I recall becoming furious from some of my friends in the past,but how did I react? did I hurt them? not in million years! I merely ignored them, and that was more than enough. My parents raised me well.
So tell me, why some girls are too lame, stupid, ignorant, clueless, punks, and limited minded that they can’t get over their jealousy from each others and stop hurting each others??
I know we were not all raised in the same circumstances, and not everybody out there is well behaved. but hey, at least there are some smart ways to show jealousy, rather than hurting each others. or better yet you can go get yourself a god damned life instead of hurting others.
and here I would like to end this with a saying of the holy prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings being upon him):
المسلم من سلم المسلمون من لسانه ويده
“The Muslim is the one whom other Muslims are not hurt by his/her tongue and hand”
Did you hear that girls ? stop hurting each others with your shit full tongue.
on 21 May 2007 at 8:15 pm # Sharifo
wa ana men haza el mazna2 a7eb 2a2ool :
)
3ashan 3goolhom zgheera…ela man ra7ema rabi…
in the other hand,,mesh shart, feeh shababz bekon 32olhom azghar men el banat ( hard but true
seede…l3alo kheir
on 21 May 2007 at 10:37 pm # Fantasia1982
well…well…
This was discussed on our lunch break a couple of days ago, and it was interesting to see the similarity of your way of thinking and one of my colleague.
I really don’t understand Why you guys start putting all that on women and blame them for certain behaviors???
This is a behavior that isn’t related to gender by any means. It is related to the personality, and how the person is raised.
When I have heard my colleagues saying that, I told him “What about the men who are betraying their countries? We barely hear women do that!!!” and here I am saying it to you too… This is only to prove that the evil souls is also presented in men on a larger scale, and the enjoyment of hurting others is existed in creators that can’t be called humans, Whether we are talking about men or women. It’s a matter of wrong and unacceptable attitudes.
I hope you will stop generalizing. In reality, you can only do that when you have a questionnaire/planned interviews/planned observations, representative sample and then you can safely put some percentage on the table, and discuss it.
I mean, I do enjoy reading your articles, but sometimes you do take it to an extreme without taking care of some facts, which makes your article a little bit controversial in not-so- right way.
But, I really do respect your mind, and I do enjoy reading your posts. That’s a fact
on 22 May 2007 at 12:36 am # Abed Hamdan
Sharifo: of course, some guys are even worse
Fantaisa1981:
well, speaking of males, I agree that some males are even worse.
But statistically, It’s more often with girls. Or let’s say that I witness girls cases more than guys cases. And here I state my opinions from what I perceive. you might perceive different things and have another point of view. We can also refer to our common sense.
I do generalize sometimes, for I’m someone who hate details
Thanks for reading my blog
on 22 May 2007 at 3:37 am # nisa
Assalamu’alaikum Abed,
If I can offer you a cup of Horlicks.
In the Quran, God even told the story of sibling rivalries between men - Habil & Qabil, Joseph & his half brothers. So it is perhaps not a gender issue. As muslims, we know piety & actions defines us human being, both men or women.
Anyway, I admit I might wish I’m as beautiful, intelligent & successful as this gorgeous lady. Mixed blood, chemical engineering, if I have “managing a petroleum plant” on my resume - wow. Still my envy is more love & respect for her, in a way that it makes me want to enhance myself. God Knows Best now I too want to poise myself like a highly educated queen. Isn’t that wonderful. Alhamdulillah.
Still what about the flaunting women? Yes, I do not prefer them flaunting suggestively, it seems it could instill vanity in society. I hope I don’t hurt them, I’m sorry if I do. But I guess I just… it’s like when you have to work very hard with little love, while that other girl are pampered like a princess people worry if she broke a fingernail. While you broke a leg & no one cares. Yeah.
It’s not jealousy, it’s like a hungry injured Palestinian next to happy cherished ladies shopping branded items in gold glittered malls. Is it a wrong feeling? I’m sorry. But I do wish everyone the best, I do want everyone to be happy.
So May God guides us all well, amen. I need guidance so much.
on 22 May 2007 at 9:29 am # Jasim
Yeah you keep on trying to understand them, good luck with that, ’cause you really need it
Well yeah I agree with you, but most of them act in this way, not all of them. I mean you really can find some girls who are sane more than the guys!!
on 22 May 2007 at 9:48 am # The Observer
I guess jealousy is part of our human nature. It isn’t explicit for women! As Fantasia said, it depends on personality and how much a person knows to handle his own feelings towards people in his life.
on 22 May 2007 at 12:17 pm # vagueraz
Good post Abed ..
Not all Girls , but most of them i donna why !!!
or how do they think !! or their view points ,,
or interseting in doing this !!
hurt her best friends cuz of marks !! aktar shee
mo2lem when they been close friends , always togather
spent most times with each other !! and In a moment
they forget that and hurt her friend and threw every thing
,,, cuz of marks or “jealousy” like what u said !!!
where’s human principles ,,
I think the personality of some one play big part in this !!
Life Is Too short !! why not to live it in peace without
…,
Hurting each other …. but what to say ..
f bnaaaat 32lhum kteer z’3eeer !! w f guys also …
good Points to discuss
“U remind me of attitude i faced !! lol “
on 22 May 2007 at 12:19 pm # Mrs Al Ramahi
it depends on the girls and how well they are raised.. i hate those talks too.. well i reached to a point, that i cant be around those chatter boxs anymore.. poisoned talk from here and there.. Allah yehdeehum~
on 22 May 2007 at 1:23 pm # Bakria
Dear Abed,
Zaman 3annak.
I don’t think it is something in girls themselves. It is common between all people. People forget to look at theirselves, since they dont really know about themselves. So the first one they see might be their first victim. For the most stupid reason ever. Some thinks it makes life more fun and exciting. It is their world and the way they are trying to kill hours, in this very annoying way. i
I hate it too actually. And I know it is more common between the girls world. Personally, I’d rather keep away from these nonesenses. It drives me crazy. I have no time for it. And to IGNORE it is the best way to deal with it.
on 22 May 2007 at 2:11 pm # Yuko Yamada
Yup, not only women but men are also envious all over the world, not only in Jordan.
But I have to admit girls tend to be more envious then boys.
Some girls tend to look at other girls who are prettier than you with stern eyes.
I think we have to be strong to overcome envy…
envious feeling makes nothing reallly…
on 22 May 2007 at 5:33 pm # manal y
yeah its always a shock and hard to understand when that happens to best freinds, but i guess one part wasnt the good freind everyone though s/he is,
and not all people are like that, but if u happened to be shocked why some certain people acts like that, then u have miss understood thier personality cause they are defenitly not only a very envious person they are indivisuals taht has 2 faces which is worest than anything else.
on 22 May 2007 at 8:04 pm # Maioush
An old friend used to tell me:
“El banat bedallo sa7bat la7ad ma yedkhol shab bel nos… o el shabab bedallo s7ab la 7ad ma tekhol bent fi el nos”
and you what? It’s so damn true… girls can be so silly sometimes, bs bardo el shabab ma be2asro.. 3aleahom 7arakat zai wejwhom marrat.. yalla had 7al edenya … bs esma3, ma bedak waja3 hal ras, o seebak mn el banat o sawaleefhom arya7 la rasak
on 22 May 2007 at 11:15 pm # Khouloud
LOOOOOL This is by far the best I have ever read! Hehehehe
Abda3t ya Abed! Great post 
on 23 May 2007 at 1:22 pm # SimSim
believe me guys can be worst than girls in this …
on 23 May 2007 at 10:22 pm # Walid
yes i think that is so much true..
but as the majority said boys could be even more worse.
on 24 May 2007 at 4:57 am # bara2
this is so true wallahe … kol kelme sa7 .. allah y3een elnas 3la masayebha
ana bakrah tasarofat elbanat el3′abeye .. benarfezone ..
mesg lalbanat: ya btekbaro ya ema ……… 5alekom s3′ar
on 24 May 2007 at 10:25 am # Reham
Abudi,
There are two types of people in the world.
The first type, as you so heatedly
pointed out, attempts to drag down others in order to feel better about themselves.
The second type works hard and attempts to elevate themselves in order to reach a higher place in the world and in turn feel good about themselves as well.
And when it comes to friends, despite gender, it’s always a good idea to stay out of it.
on 24 May 2007 at 11:51 am # life
I can tell you why…
Its something that has to do with satisfaction..
I mean how well the person is satisfied with what he/she really is…
And how you receive what people are…
It’s about inner peace…
We all feel jealous from certain things.. At certain points.. But it doesn’t mean to let that jealousy control our life.. No no… That’s the sick part of it…
allah ehdehom..
on 26 May 2007 at 12:41 am # Abed Hamdan
Nisa:
Thanks for sharing your story. yes envious is for both genders
Jasim: sure things
The Observer: But I think it’s more common for women
VagueRaz: I agree.
Mrs AL-Ramahi: Likewise, I’m avoiding those fights!
Bakria: wallah im always trying to be away…It’s not easy to avoid them
Yuko Yamada: We also need maturity. Btw, Are you Japanese ?
on 26 May 2007 at 12:49 am # Abed Hamdan
Manal y: very wise! thanks for enlightening me, I really appreciate it!
Maioush: eh ba2daresh ab3ed, ana mosle7 ejtema3i
Kholood: ahla w sahla
SimSim: yes, some guys are worse…
Walid: yeah
Bara2: allah kareem
Reham: I’m trying
Life: Absolutely, Inner peace and personal innate security is essential
on 13 May 2008 at 4:13 pm # Yoko
I’ve learnt and seen that the most jelous, cruel, competative women of them all are the western women, they are complete bitches.
on 15 May 2008 at 9:23 am # Abed Hamdan
Yoko:
I profoundly disagree. In fact, I was talking about Arab girls, and to be more specific, they’re my country women lol